If I had a dollar for every conversation I had with people regarding how “they are not flexible” or how “yoga is not something they can explore,” I would be a gazillionaire! UGH! The reason for doing yoga is to GET flexible – and not necessarily to come to yoga with flexible capabilities.
For most of us, flexibility—in any form – is scary. I think social media freaks people out when they see people in these crazy pretzel poses or headstands. The yoga veteran started out like every other human starts anything in life. The truth is Yoga is about flexibility in the mind and body. It’s also about patience, surrendering and being comfortable with where you are.
Even with slight hesitations or debilitating anxieties—we have the remarkable ability to overcome the fear of stretching. It’s a practice that is as simple as it is life-changing.
I would like to walk you through some of the ways to dispel illogical fear and help you create a new, healthier, happier normal, while exploring our relationship to fear of stretching (the mind, not just the body.)
The definition of Flexible according to Wikipedia is: the quality of bending easily without breaking. The ability to be easily modified.
The practice of flexibility comes from just that…practice. I have learned in the past year that losing control is not only liberating, but it is also exactly what my heart needed. I was carrying so much anxiety and pressure that was unnecessary and constricting. The minute I knew my son was going to die, all control and power was given in surrender. The feeling of really letting go and letting GOD sounds so clique, but that is exactly what I did. I was flexible in my mind, my heart and my breath. I found peace in the bending and modification I made in acceptance of my circumstance.
All I can think about it using that new found power. I practice it daily. I lose the thought of guiding and driving and I just sit back and allow the universe to take hold of my manifestations and energy.
This same principle I used with my mind and heart in my grief can be applied in yoga and in meditation. Be still and allow the flexibility to guide you. Surrender to your movements and grow.
5 ways you can practice being flexible:
- Being silent. Try listening. I now take a breath between conversations with a true ear to the words that I hear. I pivot my thoughts but practicing not to take anything personal. Taking emotion out of conversations that don’t require personal investment.
- “You always have two choices: your commitment or your fear.”– Sammy Davis Jr.
You can choose to stay rigid or fearful of losing control or you can relish in a happy “go with the flow” no fear narrative.
- Keep track of your habits and reward yourself for being flexible to situations. The best way to know when you’re flexible is by identifying those moments. You can also find patterns in your behavior (a Bujo works good for this tracking).
- Allowing spontaneous adventures to find you. Create a vision board with outrageous adventures and manifest flexibility in your life.
- Read books on opening your mind and heart in sacred self care rituals. Meditation works. It saves lives (it saved mine.) Write your own meditations or use guided ones that help open your heart to stillness and acceptance.
Flexibility in movement, in emotions and with yourself can be challenging. But being powerful over those voices in your head, those places of self-doubt that create failure, is worth the slight discomfort of stepping outside that place.
Be the light,